This update has been a long time coming. Probably should have written this at least a couple years ago.
In this year of 2020, it seems just like another year for most of the world.
With the rising pandemic of SARS-CoV-2 (Covid19) and how it is drastically effecting the world as a whole. How we interact with each other, and the routines of daily life.
I’m sure everyone wants everything to return to normal, and quick. This disruption to life is a first for most people. With the added fear and anxiety it can, and does bring.
I’ve personally been through so much, with surgeries growing up, and two different tumors, removed in the past 11 years. And still living with an inoperable one, for far too long.
Which now, I would like to share with you, what I’ve been through. And hopefully this can be useful to whoever reads this, so they can persevere through any trials they may face.
Keeping up appearances, while others continue on, when your life is not yet ready to transition to “normal.”
People will fail you, that’s a given. And were actually never with you to begin with.
And you too will fail others, you were connected to as well.
It will take time to heal. Once you eyes are open. You learn to let people in that matter. And it’s okay to leave people behind. Because that’s the start of the healing process. 🙂
It’s better to have people that will be there for you. Remember you don’t have to put up with someone that is against you, for the sake of a group. It happened to me, and leaving a group was all in all, the best thing for me.
I had to leave two groups behind in the wake. But was all for the better.
Having scans is actually not normal, even though others want you to keep that separate. It puts an unneeded pressure, and strain upon your life. But actually it helps to build up endurance, it strengthens you. You want everything to be normal like everyone else. You have all these worries, about things coming back. Or new things arising in the future. You see the world in a different way. You leave the old you behind.
If you haven’t yet, why?
I think surgeries are a normal part of life, and having multiple back surgeries from age 5 to age 13. You don’t realize other kids, and adults never had to face this. I know pain well, in fact I almost can’t tell the difference in a bad pain, because I’ve had extreme levels of it growing up.
I can withstand a lot. So, I’ve had to think, and ask myself,
“Is this really serious?” Because I’ve had worse. And I know you have to press through, as I’ve done in recovering from my previous surgeries. As in life as well.
I’ll say this, I don’t mind surgeries. They don’t bother me at all. Perhaps only the night before, or the day it happens. But since I’ve got it all out of my system. I look ahead to the end.
I keep it in my sight.
I’ll share a Bible verse that I’ve always used before going into surgery.
Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens me.”
As a Christian, and knowing that God is there, when I said it before my first surgery, and up to my last two surgeries to remove a sarcoma in 2013.
I know, and trust in God, that he can deliver me safely through. That I shall not fear. That I know that I can’t face this alone. I could not even fathom that now. And I know those surgeries would have been more difficult to face alone. So, when trials arise today. I can say in truth, God is here, God hears and answers your prayers. It does not fall on deaf ears. Christ, his Son, was sent here to save us. This road ahead is unknown, we do not know the future of our life. Though we think we can plan it, yet we do not plan our steps.
So, when you think times are tough, you will look back and realize this spot, has grown you in ways, you never imagined.
Please be kind to others. Don’t think there life is back to normal, and don’t make them think they have to act that way. Surgery might be over and done. There is another thing, there is the mental aspect, which is not back to normal. So, don’t say to someone. “But you’re okay now, right?
I wish I would have said, NO, and how unkind those words are to say.
But you smile, and give them the response they want to hear,
so they can move on.
So, in light of social isolation. Remember there are others out there, that have been isolated before all of this. When social isolation ends, will you call upon this person and simply invite them to come. Persistence is good, because sometimes, people are experiencing things that prevent them from attending.
When all is said and done, simply be there for them.
– Also, a tip for not knowing what to do when someone is going through a trial, get up and do it for them.
Don’t put out a question, is there anything I can do?
–Actually get up and do it!
Now to persistence, if they say I’ll call you. Call them back if you don’t hear back. And offer up suggestions, like you mean it. And then do it for them. Accepting help is not easy. Especially if you feel like you can do it on your own. But trust me, everyone that actually offered for a specific task
and did it. Is remembered.
Back to today, and what’s our next step. Press on. Because this is a new challenge some are not ready to face. Don’t hold on to your possessions, because in the end, they won’t be going with you. I would say pray, pray for the world, pray for your neighbors, and make sure you are there to help. Coming together now, is what we should be doing.
When this is over, we can say thank you. And know that we are not in control, we do not know what the future holds, and we actually don’t know what the planet will look like years down the road.